“But what do you mean?” Women and men discuss many conversational issues that involve how they interact. These issues include apologies, criticism, thank-yous, fighting, praise, complaints and jokes. Tannen mentioned issues and discusses the ways men and women use, interact and manage the use of them. Tannen starts talking about how we see people interact in many daily rituals that most of the time we do not even realize that we are doing. That it has become a part of our daily lives and we sometimes go through without questioning. She saids that something that women do are apologies, women do a lot, goes to say that women always seem to be apologizing for everything even though it’s not their fault. To fit in the environment women feel they should be more apologetic. She talks about who women should avoid apologizing especially when they do not do anything wrong that they need to apologize for. Men on the other hand seem to avoid the subject by ignoring it whenever they do something wrong so the situation can be taken off of them.
Tannen also discussed that women say thank you more even if they should not. This is most likely because women are known to be gentle and have to be more polite. Tannen discusses how men seem to take things as they come and have less education when dealing with this issue. Another issue discussed is fighting. She talks about how men enjoy arguing and confronting others regarding their ideas or beliefs. Men are more likely to push for arguments in order to discuss and dispute their ideas showing off their ideas and proving that they are correct. While women are on the side lines just watching and waiting for it to pass by. However, this might be true for other women but the women in my family are extremely argumentative making their point they do not like to lose their arguments. Being honest no one likes to lose an argument. Praise is a thing we all as humans want, we want to hear that we are doing a good job at work, that we look nice ect.. But Tannen discusses that women seem to have the need to receive more praise than men. Men as true as they seem to be less sensitive and seem to care more about the end product, the position and money they receive from their employer than to hear that they are doing a good job. However, this brings that point we as men seem to be more power driven than women and we do not care to hear that we are doing a good job as long as we do not hear that we are doing a bad job.
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